Who Pays For The Nursing Home? by Rabbi Ephraim Glatt, Esq

Question: May a child place an elderly parent in a nursing home instead of caring for the parent in his own home? If yes, who pays for the nursing home?

Short Answer: While it is an incredible mitzvah for a child to care for an elderly parent in his home, there are poskim who allow the child to place the parent in a nursing home, especially if remaining in the child’s home negatively impacts the shalom bayis of the child. The parent’s funds may be used to pay for the nursing home, but if the parent does not have the funds, the child must pay for the funds and cannot use tz’dakah money to pay for the care.

The full article goes into this in depth.